One of the things I read about with most couples that get into a Dominant/submissive relationship, especially if they go 24/7, are the establishment of rules. Often, this is so foreign and new to couples. Many of us were married for years and basically no rules for the most part. Now we want rules, lots of ’em!
It’s a wild world we’ve entered. Girls, in their desire to please their Sirs, will often want a bunch of rules. They want to show off. They want to be good girls. You might scoff at this comment, but I read it over and over. At least with couples that are truly living D/s and not just fantasizing about it on the internet, Walter Mitty style.
Rules can be fun for both in that many couples have “funishments” to put into play when a rule is broken. This can be fun, but can really lead to a brat. Bratty subs will do what they can to get in trouble like a child. They want attention and look forward to the fun spanking or whatever her Dom has in place. I, personally, have a sub that has a touch of innocent little in her. I love all of her but that innocent little is one of my favorite parts of her. It always has been. Even before I knew what a little was.
I don’t want to live with a brat. I’ve raised a daughter thru teen years. I’m done with that type of personality in my home. If my girl breaks a rule, she knows the full extent of what is in store for her and the word “fun” is not part of it. I’m a benevolent dictator. But I’m not a Sadist. I do not enjoy inflicting excruciating pain. So our punishments are a bit more skewed to the mental aspects of disappointment.
But rules, rules, rules. “Let’s have 30 rules please. Please sir?” No. Do I want to enjoy life with my sub or do I want to be a task master and rule enforcer? I’ll pass. I’ve got better things to do with my life without having to keep track of a million rules and punishments. If your D/s isn’t fun, it won’t last a lifetime. And that is the goal for me, a lifetime of respect, trust, communication, transparency and love. Anything less would be a waste of what breaths she and I both have left.
So, we have kept it to three rules:
When I call “baby doll”, she is to answer “Sir?”
We treat and speak to each other in respectful voices at all times, no exceptions.
All her orgasms belong to me (have to mix in a bit of sexy fun, right?)
The first rule she questioned at first. She needed to understand why this was important. My curvey has at tendency to get distracted by shiny objects. A task, a project, a beautiful vision, etc. It’s part of that innocent little child in her. Our first rule focuses her on me. This is a big deal for me. I want to look a person in the eye and know that I have their full attention before I use my words. My words are like currency and I only will spend them wisely.
Our second rule comes from the several of many years of a suffering marriage. Often I’ve seen others as well, only lash out at the ones that will take it on willingly. Perhaps not intentionally but it happens. You only hurt the ones you love. True with barbed words. Things said between unhappy married couples in private can be biting and poisonous. The only way we were going to correct our course was to always speak to each other in respectful tones. When one of us deviates momentarily, the other will stop speaking and gently remind. This has been a lifesaver for us.
Finally, the third rule is fun. This needs to be fun. If I’m traveling and she wishes to masturbate, she has to phone me and ask permission. This can lead to another entire subset of fun for us. Texts, pictures, silly stuff, sexy stuff. But it’s just a lot of fun. In bed, she is to ask as well. Sometimes she does better than other times. There are times where I’ve seen her fall out of the moment a bit by having to ask permission to orgasm. But all in all, we make this one work for us in a fun way.
That’s it. No more rules to enforce. Punishments are centered around the knowledge that I’m disappointed. It’s powerful stuff.
WOW! It’s almost here the end of another year and a New, Fresh start of 2018! May your Protocols be SHINY wherever, you and your Sir Celebrate! Whether you are partying, dancing, dining or snuggled up in your PJs in your Sir’s lap watching a movie, add in Protocols. Protocols can set the tone/taste of the evening to come! Talk with your Sir and ask him what Protocols he might enjoy TASTING for your New Years Eve Celebration!
^^ Wishes you a Happy Monday ! Tasty Tuesday NIGHT chat TOMORROW 11/21
We will chat on our Ds through the Holidays. Many people struggle through the holidays for lots of reasons. Be thinking of some new ideas that you and your Sir can put in place to make this the Best Ds JOYFUL Holidays ! What is your Perfect Holiday ? How can you make that Happen ?
Tasty Tuesday NIGHT Chat tomorrow 11/21 Message ^^ for the Key to subLanding
Curvey’s Adventures at TEXAS BONDAGE CAMP !
The NIGHT of the EVENT is here… Yes there are butterflies in my tummy! I have been preparing my outfits and body to please Sir. This event Sir has told me I will be on our social-PROTOCOL (low, fun, I can wander with friends, training night!) I understand fully what is excepted from me and how my behavior is the be for the Night. Sir has decided our dynamic/Play for the night is Master/slave girl. Pre-arrangements is the key on any event, parties, dungeon play ect. Deciding at the event is NOT what I share is best nor works for us. Making the time to communicate and ask questions will make a Magical night for you and your Sir. Deciding on Protocol is what the event dictates. If you accept the invitation, you are to follow the protocol. If you don’t, it is considered rude and I would not exspect to be invited back. When you recieved the invitation, it should include all the dirty details! If you don’t want to follow the protocols, dress or there are things going on during the event that aren’t for you, just respectfully decline the event.
Don’t accept an invitation and not comply or trash the event afterwards. That’s not right! It takes a lot of people to put on any event/party. Sir talks to me about which of our D/s friends that will be there and the set up at the camp. We do not share! TONIGHT Sir has already made a plan with the other Sirs,/Masters. I will be a slave girl and serve all other Masters/Dom/free females, submissives. So, I’m processing all this with the giddy excitement of a slave/girl. Sir also has asked me to review the events post of Protocol and the Dungeon rules.
It is AMAZING that me and my Sir are going to such an event. Our DsMARRAGE is solid. We have worked hard and moved in baby steps. Sir is giving me the gift to play and embrace a flavor within my submission: slave girl. I feel wet thinking that Sir will be watching me as I serve…. OOOh, thats another post!
thesubmissiveSisterHood is having a FANTASY COSTUME party for Our Sirs !
DARE to enter …
of Course we will have PRIZES !
Enter as MANY time as you desire ! Your pictures will be POSTED , no names. Naughty no NICE ! Pictures can be you and anything else ! PM or email Curveycatsub@gmail.com ReesiLUVES will announce WINNER in Tasty Tuesday chat October 31,
FIRST PRIZE WINNER is PP…
SECOND PLACE WINNER is subANDE…
Well … don’t panic and what FUN! An Invitation to meet people living like YOU! Why should it be any different than other Invites you receive? You have the basics: be respectful and manners! If you’re rusty, click Google and look up manners! Its true think TITANIC … start with utensils on your right, farthest out (some exception do apply on this.). Let’s be real …It’s all about what to wear, how should Sir dress. When Sir Tex and I host an invite, we make that easy dress attire and a brief description of the night is on the invite, most invites do this.
WHEW! I get emails I want to share. “My Sir won’t wear a suit, he will only wear jeans, I don’t own a red dress, etc…” I believe like any other invite, if you accept you should follow the details, kind of a respectful thing to the host. Can you wear what you want and go to the invite, of course…. But, it might be received, as a Party Pooper LOL kind of like those people who show up at your Halloween costume party and then no one shows up dressed in costume! WHY should you be following the dress attire and other instruction? Many reasons … Could be a theme invite, participation sets the mood, the host might give you a flower to wear she wants it to match your dress, maybe a game needing Sir’s jacket? You just Never know! You always have the option to decline the invite if you don’t feel comfortable. I will share most hostess’ thoughts on this…”most subs own a little black dress!” I have never gotten something too crazy or I couldn’t pick up for Sir or myself with out breaking our budget!